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Things I wish I knew when going natural

These are some of the things I wish I knew before going natural because it would have saved me from lots of disappointment, frustration  with my hair and just plain confusion.


Sulphates make your hair crunchy.

Not all hair salons will be as patient and gentle with your hair.

Your hair cannot live on coconut oil alone it will become brittle.

Don’t wash and twist damp hair the night before if you have an early morning meeting. The same goes for trying out a new style or technique the night before and important day.

Satin head scarves/bonnets/pillowcases keep your hair looking good in general.

Getting a protective hairstyle like braids or a weave is no reason to ignore your real hair.

aloe vera juice. castor oil. peppermint oil

Spritz and drink water, your hair will thank you.

Your damp twist out might look bomb but in about an hour it will shrink into a hot mess

Paddle brushes trump wide tooth combs! This I really wish I knew from the beginning.

When shopping for shampoo and conditioner, get 2 bottles of conditioner for every 1 bottle of shampoo 🙂

Curlformers, bendy rollers and perm rods are over rated you can do without them

Bendy rollers do not make for a good night’s sleep. Ouch 😦

You will become an informed and conscious shopper even if just a little bit. It’s unavoidable

The best way to preserve curls? Pineapple

Heat protectant is a non negotiable must have.

When traveling to a country with a tropical climate: forget your straightener because your hair will frizz the minute you’re done straightening, don’t get a weave with a parting, and especially don’t forget to enjoy how plump and moisturised your curls will be most of the time.

But if you really do insist on wearing your hair straight in humid tropical areas then silicone is your best friend. Just remember to wash it out often.

Don’t buy a 1l tub of ecostyler gel that you won’t even get halfway through before forgetting it somewhere while on holiday lol.

Getting a trim regularly really will save you from damage caused by split ends and single strand knots. Also you will avoid stunted hair growth or feeling like your hair has stopped growing.

Heat is totally ok when used in moderation plus it saves time.

Sadly the honeymoon phase eventually comes to an end.

Keeping it simple is what will keep your hair awesome.



The natural hair movement and why I went natural

Why I went natural and have never looked back!

In 2011 while randomly searching the web I discovered the natural hair community and decided to go natural. I got my last relaxer on June 30th a date I cannot forget because it coincides with independence day of the DRC hence my independence from the creamy crack lol

I was amazed at the pictures of beautiful afros I saw and for a minute I thought the women with such beautiful hair were wearing wigs because how could a black woman someone possibly have so much hair. I mean I believed it used to exist but maybe before colonial times? In any case I had never physically seen anyone with that much hair. I eventually started reading up on natural hair and the benefits and realised that relaxers were not for me. From my first relaxer at the age of 7 that I had begged my mom to get to my last relaxer at the age of 18 I had gotten burnt every. single. time.

 Later big chopped but but it wasn’t just a big chop for me. It was a big bald chop. In the beginning I struggled internally but this forced me to redefine my standards of beauty and made me realise how much I measured and associated my beauty with my hair. It also made me realise how much the world was fixated on a European standard of beauty because after the chop remembered how I thought I was so beautiful after my first relaxer because “now my hair can sway :)”

Although natural hair is beautiful and just amazing I’d be lying if I said bad hair days will cease to exist or that it will always be a breeze to take care of. Frustration? That happens and sometimes you might feel as if your hair just won’t cooperate with you but when that happens you always learn a lesson  what not to do next time. It requires gentleness, patience and care.

On the other hand here are the amazing I’ve gained form keeping natural hair:

  • Natural hair is beautiful and very flexible.
  • You can wear it up, down, straight, curly without long-term commitment or changing its natural state.
  • My hair is healthier
  • I am more informed about my hair and health and have become a conscious shopper and this doesn’t ony apply to my hair product shopping but has extended to shopping in general. 
  • I have learned to take pride in my hair, skin and origin. My black was always beautiful. This has just made me see this clearer